Everyone around you has been taught to work for acceptance and love. This includes you because everyone has this same 'system' built into their earth suits. How about letting each other off the hook, and not require them to work for love. How about just giving them love, acceptance? You don't have to agree with everything they say or do, but you can recognize there is a struggling person trapped inside their body, trying to get love in all the wrong places.
When God clothes us, He does it from the inside, and then it flows out; otherwise, His desire would be for us to follow the law. His desire is not for you to follow the law, but rise above it, walking in love.
Want an instant stress reliever (warning, it will develop character and humility)? Try looking past actions (even your own) and accepting each other for who they are on our deepest part. Let your self off the 'work for love' hook. Let each other off the hook... Love first, ask questions later.